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How To Pick Yourself Up After Ending A Long Relationship

Ending a relationship is never easy. Unfortunately, most people have experienced it. And if you have, you may know how to pick yourself up after ending a long relationship.

Here at GenTwenty I am sure you have read countless of articles on relationship advice. But this is how to cope after ending a long, meaningful relationship. It’s a hard concept to grasp when you are so in love with someone.

It’s easy to believe that you are fine, when deep down inside, you really are not. Moving on after being in any relationship can sometimes be pretty difficult. Picking yourself up after ending a long relationship can also be pretty challenging.

It can bring on depression, anxiety, sadness, and anguish. I have been there before. Sometime we feel shame or embarrassment for no good reason other than self-infliction of our esteem, that we bring onto ourselves.

It’s hard to grasp that someone suddenly may not love you anymore. Or to think that after being in a relationship for nearly a decade with someone, feels like you wasted 10 years of your life. On the contrary, I am here to tell you you don’t have to feel that way.

I have gathered some of the best tips for how to pick yourself up after ending a long relationship. Here is how to cope, live in your feelings, and how to move forward.

How To Pick Yourself Up After Ending A Long Relationship

Hard Lessons Learned

So you have just been dealt a hard blow and your significant other of nearly a decade broke up with you. Maybe you saw it coming or maybe you didn’t. Maybe you ended it.

Whatever the reason, being with someone for that amount of time and then suddenly not, is a contrast that you are usually not prepared for. It’s a huge change. Suddenly you have to learn to live alone, and do things alone again.

But instead of seeing that time as wasted time spent with another individual, see it as several lessons learned. What did you take away from the relationship experience? What do you want to leave behind?

Did it take away from who you truly are? Or maybe you are realizing you need to find yourself. There is a vast amount of good that can come from being alone again.

On that note, don’t think of being alone as such a terrible thing or a negative experience. Instead turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. Which brings me to my next point.

Think Positively

You’re not alone so much as you are now an independent individual trying to find yourself. Yes! That is how you need to approach your sadness.

Look, it’s ok to grieve. It’s ok to feel sadness, anger and heartbreak. But don’t let it consume your whole life.

Don’t let is shape you. Allow yourself to translate how you want that chapter in your life to be interpreted. Give yourself some credit.

You are, after all, human! Turn your negative thoughts into positive ones and you will find yourself moving forward much quicker.

Distract Yourself

Find something you love and, do it. Take up a hobby. Or shift your focus towards something you have been meaning to but never really got around to doing.

Book more wellness appointments for yourself, like therapy sessions, spa days, massages, and even a chiropractor. Make dates with your friends, see your family more, get out and get some sun.

All of what I mentioned does nothing but good for the soul. The point here is to live through your heartache so that it becomes easier and easier overtime.

Find Yourself Again

This one is so important for both your mental and physical health. I have told every single one of my friends this next piece of advice that I am going to share with you. If you haven’t done this yet, then book yourself a table for one at your favorite restaurant.

Get all dressed up, or don’t, but do what makes you feel your best. For me, it’s getting dressed up and doing my makeup. Then go out and have a nice dinner by yourself. Put the phone down, eat some delicious food and enjoy a drink.

Really take in the moment and the time to be yourself while being by yourself. It’s one of the best experiences I had after going through a terrible breakup.

Was it weird? Did it feel funny? A little. But I would do it again and I have done it again.

It’s good to find yourself again and to do the things you love after going through a breakup. It’s so vital to pick yourself up after ending a long relationship. Bring yourself back to life so to speak.

Remember that it’s ok to grieve your heartache and to let yourself feel all the feelings you need to. But also, be kind to yourself.

Use the tips above to push yourself to move forward and eventually, to move on. Believe in yourself and you can overcome anything!

What are some positive ways you have picked yourself up after ending a long relationship?

About the Author

Jovi Casie

Jovi studied Journalism at Southwestern College. She currently works full time and is a mom to a beautiful daughter, named Olivia. When she isn't working or spending time with family and friends, she enjoys being a crazy plant lady, watching HGTV and spending quality time with her daughter. You can often find her cozied up in a local coffee shop writing for her personal blog. She hopes to one day work full time as a writer and to inspire others to live a happy and successful life.