Being single can either feel great, or not so great. If you’re feeling the latter right now I hope the resources I share in this post will help change that for you. I’ve been single my whole life, so I know the rollercoaster of emotions that come with being single, at least most of them.
The truth is, I used to be ashamed and embarrassed to say out loud what I just told you. The older I got the more out of place I felt with it. I thought that I was the only twenty-something that had never been in a relationship. I’ve learned over the past few years that this isn’t the case.
Finding this information out has definitely helped me feel better about my relationship status situation, but I still get down sometimes. It’s during those times that I turn to books, blog posts, podcasts, and advice from friends to put things into perspective. It’s hard not being in a relationship when you want to be in one. On the other hand, it’s freeing to notice that you are content without one. That’s a feeling that I want to achieve more, and I hope that this post helps you feel the same way if you are currently struggling.
Now let’s get into these resources and tips. Some of these are my personal recommendations, and some are what I’ve found through research and recommendations given to me. I hope that one, or more, of what I’m about to share will help you navigate your season of singleness.
21 Resources For Your Singleness
All of these books are now on my reading list after the recommendations I’ve received. If you’ve read any of these let me know what you thought.
- The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
- How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate
- How to Be an Adult in Love: Letting Love in Safely and Showing It Recklessly
- Single and Forced to Mingle: A Guide for (Nearly) Any Socially Awkward Situation
There are so many great tips in these posts. The last two is from one of our GenTwenty contributors, so make sure you check that one out. I’ve also included posts that you can relate to, no matter how far along you are in your twenties.
- Don’t Worry If You’re Single In Your Late 20s
- 14 Reasons to Enjoy being Single in Your 20s
- This Is What Therapists Tell People Who Are Sick Of Being Single
- If You’re Single In Your Mid-20s, You Need This Life-Changing Advice From 11 Women
- 10 reasons to celebrate being single in your 20’s
- How To Appreciate Your Time as a Single Lady
- How To Love Yourself as a Single Girl
We love podcasts here at GenTwenty. There are many different ones to choose from on the topic of singleness and dating. Listen to a few of these and let me know what your favorite ones are.
- Single Swipe Repeat
- Save the Date
- The Heart of Dating
- Love Life with Matthew Hussey
- The Confident Single Women
Words are powerful on their own, but put them to music and it’s something much more. That is why I love listening to music. It’s the most encouraging, and relatable, songs that mean the most to me. These songs are perfect for us single ladies to listen to when we need a boost of confidence. For more like this check out my self love playlist
- Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It) by Beyoncé
- Hide Your Love Away by Anthem Lights
- Soulmate by Lizzo
- Independent Woman by Destiny’s Child
- Buy My Own Drinks: Runaway June
- F**kn’ Perfect by P!nk
- Look At Her Now by Selena Gomez
- I Am Enough by Daphne Willis
- Queens Don’t by RaeLynn
- TikTok: Once you find one video about being single, and interact with it, next thing you know they will be all over your For You page. This has definitely helped me feel less alone.
- How To Be Single Movie: We even have a review here for you on GenTwenty
- YouTube Video: .How to *Actually* be Happy Single – I love the part where she talks about “the one.”
- Instagram account: @tinymoron
- Instagram account: @imdatfeminist
- Being Around Single Friends: This is a tip a friend of mine reminded me of. When all you are surrounded by is happy couples, of course you are going to get down about not being in a relationship. I’m not saying that you need to kick your married, engaged, or dating friends to the curb. What I am saying is that you need to also find people that are in the same season of life you are in. It will make a huge difference in how you feel.
- Freedom To Do What You Want: Without having to consider another person you have the freedom to travel where you want, watch what you want, live where you want, and pursue your own goals, among other things.
- Time To Reflect On What You Want: A friend of mine pointed this one out to me. When you are single you are able to reflect on who you want in a partner. You can think back on past relationships, or even relationships you have seen from your family and friends, to determine what worked and what didn’t.
- Time To Get To Know, and Love, Yourself More: As much as I want to be in a relationship right now, I’m liking this period of self-discovery I’ve been having. I struggle with depression and anxiety, and this past year has been a year of transformation. I’ve been tackling many different things that I have never given myself permission to work through. I’m getting to know, and accept, the real me. While I can’t predict the would have beens, I don’t think I would have worked this hard if I was in a relationship.
Whether or not you are newly single, have been single all of your life like me, or somewhere in-between, I hope you were able to find a sense of reassurance and peace in this post. Being single can be hard, but it can also be a beautiful place of self-discovery. It’s our choice on which one we experience. Leave a comment with the best piece of advice you’ve ever gotten, or resource, that has helped you in your singleness. Then send this to your single friends.