Nobody is born with extremely high levels of self-esteem. If you can picture someone in your head right now who has bundles of confidence, it’s because they’ve been nurturing it and building it up for a long time. Self-esteem is something you learn to develop because as we know, it can be deflated in an instant.
Financial struggles, a relationship breakdown, disordered eating, and unkind comments are all examples of what can lead to low self-esteem.
Not only that, but you also have to deal with your own self-doubt that constantly tells you you’re not good enough. Put all those things together and it’s up to you to take charge of your own self-esteem. So to help you out, here are 10 of the best tips to boost your confidence.
1. Visualize yourself where you want to be.
Visualization is an exercise that can help you in so many different aspects of your life. In this case, you want to picture yourself in your mind feeling proud. Usually, low self-esteem comes from a negative perception of ourselves that just isn’t true. Visualize your best self and you’ll start to feel better.
2. Use daily affirmations.
You want to change how you view yourself and affirmations are a really powerful way to do that. Think of these as positive, uplifting statements that you say to yourself. This is how it works:
- You say the affirmation out loud (it’s more effective this way)
- You say it to yourself however often you need to (we believe what we constantly tell ourselves)
For instance, if you think you’re not appreciated at work, say something to yourself like, “I am good at my job and deserve to be appreciated at work.”
You could also rephrase it by asking yourself a question, such as “why am I so good at my job?” Your brain is wired to look for answers to questions, so this is a really effective method.
3. Face your fears.
Do one thing every day that scares you. Face it head-on. Can you imagine how many others are facing low self-esteem? You’re not the only one. Do something that scares you every day and you’ll start to gain so much self-confidence.
4. Question yourself.
Your inner critic is probably where the majority of your negativity comes from. If you struggle with low self-esteem it probably means you’re paying too much attention to your inner critic. So instead, why not question it? Look for evidence that your inner critic is correct.
For instance, if you think you’re never going to achieve a goal, ask yourself, “what evidence is there to support the thought that I’m not going to achieve this?” Reward yourself constantly, even for the smallest victory.
5. Get familiar with rejection.
Once you become familiar with rejection, it becomes easier to deal with. This definitely isn’t an easy thing to do, but if you want to drastically increase your self-esteem, this is a great way to do it.
6. Believe that you can.
Too many people focus on the things that they haven’t done or that they can’t achieve. But this is usually because we set ourselves goals that are just too big to work towards. We need to break them down into manageable steps that we can take action on.
If you do this and start seeing your achievements, you can keep working towards your bigger goals. Make sure you also list all your victories, no matter how big or small. That way, you can look back to see how much you’ve achieved.
So while it’s important to focus on your to-do list, it’s also important to concentrate on what you’ve ticked off. This is a great way to build up your self-esteem.
7. Offer help to someone else.
When you truly put effort into helping someone else, it makes you forget about your troubles. You start to feel good and especially grateful.
So instead of focusing on your failures or what you’re not good at, help and teach someone else. Your self-esteem will grow automatically.
8. Practice self-care.
Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.
Your self-esteem depends a lot on your physical, emotional, and social health. If you’re constantly tired or hate the way you look, it’s hard to feel good about yourself.
So make self-care part of your routine. Cultivate healthy exercise, eating and sleep habits. Look after your own needs and you’ll build your self-esteem in the process.
9. Aim for a work/life balance.
Learn to say no. Set personal boundaries and make sure you and everyone else sticks to them. Write it all out on a piece of paper or whiteboard if you have to. Your life is yours to control and if you believe that, the greater your self-esteem will become.
10. See yourself as an equal.
Don’t aim to be someone else. Don’t let jealousy take over. Don’t see someone as better or more deserving because you have low self-esteem. We are all equal. Shift your mindset to one of equality and you’ll naturally see a positive difference in your self-esteem.
Having low self-esteem doesn’t have to last forever. It can be solved. All you need is the right tools and the right attitude. That starts with loving yourself.