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How Settling Is Ruining Your Life


Have you ever found yourself just being OK with your position at work or being content in your marriage? Do you ever wish more for yourself in your life? 

While being happy seems like the achievable goal in life, I think back to something my dad always tells me: “You can never stop going in life, always strive to achieve more and go above and beyond.” With that said, I don’t believe in settling. There is no limit to your happiness.

Many people settle in some aspect of their life without even knowing it. Sometimes it’s to compensate for an empty feeling so they can pretend to be happy. Other times people settle in order to gain the benefits of just one happy aspect. Whether it’s reaping the benefits or filling a void, happiness seems unachievable for so many. It makes us question ourselves on a whole other level. Why do we settle? Why are we OK with mediocrity? Why do we feel so inclined to pretend to be someone we’re not just to please others?

We ask ourselves so many questions and we can never seem to find the right answers. What stands out most in today’s society is how many motivational young adults try to give advice to their peers, yet those peers never seem to fully grasp it. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again; we live in world where there is an ongoing epidemic of settling.

When it comes to love, most of us can agree that we know someone who is unhappy in their relationship. Some of us don’t say anything and others try to give advice. Consequentially, the solution is always there; yet people don’t seem to know how to get out of settling.

Instead of dwelling on the present or the past, think about your future. What kind of future do you want for yourself? How can you honestly say you are making the most of your life if you’re just settling? If that’s a tough question to answer, you may want to rethink what you are doing. Whether it’s your career, love life, or personal life; sometimes we just have to go out there and find what makes us happy.

All that said, here’s why you need to stop settling:

 1. Your health can’t deal

It’s true. When you settle in any area of your life, you are more likely to have stress or even anxiety which in turn can lead to other health problems. Why put yourself through that danger? 

2. Your relationship won’t last

This is a big one. Whether you’re in a relationship or a marriage, eventually it will catch up with you. Often, if you are settling in any kind of relationship it’s because something isn’t making you happy. Maybe there are a few things you like about that person and can live with, but honestly this isn’t your dream guy or girl.

Eventually, your significant other will catch on to your unhappiness or you will compensate for your unhappiness by seeking happiness elsewhere. That can mean cheating or not putting forth the work to make your relationship work. Don’t do this to yourself and don’t do this to that person you care about. Your relationship won’t last if you are unhappy. Get out if you’re unhappy and save yourself and the other person the time and pain.

3. Your career will falter

If you are unhappy in your job or unwilling to move up within the company, let’s face it – you’re not going to get anywhere. If you are miserable, then quit and find another job. If that’s not an option for you, then change your attitude about work. Go into work with the mindset that you are there to make money, and in turn that money is paying your bills and necessities. Making money means saving up for the things you want in life that will make you happy. Having a positive attitude might even rub off on your co-workers and can lead to an even happier environment. 

If you still aren’t convinced that you shouldn’t settle in any aspect of your life, then think about this:Do you give others advice on not settling?

Maybe you are one of those people who are settling, but seem to give the best advice about not settling. Take your own advice. It really is easier than it seems. It will take some work on your part, but know that it will be worth it in the end.

When you find your happiness, then you will see what I mean about going above and beyond. Being happy will only make you want to go out and achieve more happiness. 

Have you ever found yourself settling in some area of your life? 

About the Author

Jovi Casie

Jovi studied Journalism at Southwestern College. She currently works full time and is a mom to a beautiful daughter, named Olivia. When she isn't working or spending time with family and friends, she enjoys being a crazy plant lady, watching HGTV and spending quality time with her daughter. You can often find her cozied up in a local coffee shop writing for her personal blog. She hopes to one day work full time as a writer and to inspire others to live a happy and successful life.