We are well into the pandemic and if you are in relationship, then you know all too well that this season has been a trying one. We are already dealing with a rollercoaster of mixed emotions as it is, but throw a relationship into the mix and it’s an even more complicated time. In the midst of reading about so many separations on social media, trying to find the balance to keep the spark alive in your relationship can be a bit hard during these difficult times.
If you and your significant other are in a great place then I applaud you. That is seriously a tremendous achievement to still have a healthy and thriving relationship during this stressful time. However, if you are struggling and on edge, then this is for you. Every relationship has its ups and downs and we are all experience trying times with our partners. It’s normal. What is not necessarily normal is to constantly be arguing, feeling depressed in your relationship, or just downright not happy at all. It’s important to be happy. Both with yourself and in your relationship. In order to be your best in your relationship, you must look within to make sure you are at your best too. I have three pieces of advice for you to keep the spark alive in your relationship.
3 Ways To Keep The Spark Alive In Your Relationship
1. Skip the honeymoon stage
When you first begin a relationship, it’s common to experience that “honeymoon stage”. You know, when you’re all in love and calling each other everyday and have to see each other everyday and you don’t care who knows it. But then a few months into it, most couples get a little more relaxed or even want some space after clinging onto each other every single day. I’m here to tell you, this is not normal. Notice how I used the word “common” to describe that many go through a honeymoon stage? Well that’s because it is common, but it doesn’t make it healthy.
If you begin your relationship just as you would like it to be and go into it without expectations, then you are more likely to stay together. It is my experience that many couples who go through the honeymoon stage, find themselves unhappy once they stop all the mushiness. But why stop the mushiness to begin with? There is nothing wrong with being mushy either. You see, we need to find the medium.
When you begin your relationship, tell your partner what you like and don’t like. Do you like to see them everyday or do you prefer a few days out of the week. Do you prefer to have sex more often than not, do you prefer not to plaster your relationship all over social media? These are all things to talk about in the beginning, not after that honeymoon stage wears off. Be honest with yourself and with them. It will only lead to a healthier and happier relationship.
2. Maintain good habits in your relationship
In order to keep the spark alive, you have to keep doing the things you did in the 1st year, the same as all throughout your relationship, even if it’s your 20th year into your relationship. I truly believe in always dating your partner. That means to consistently make a date night every week. Date each other, court each other, buy each other flowers, loves notes, and things like that. Flirt with your partner. Yes you can do this even around your kids.
Touch each other lovingly. Writing sexy or naughty love notes to each other can also keep things fun. Explore and research! There are an endless amount of good habits to keep up in your relationship. I assure you, this will help keep the spark alive.
3. Maintain Communication
Maintaining communication in a relationship is a basic element of how to keep the spark alive. In order to keep a healthy relationship, things like great communication, respect and listening are some of the most fundamental skills to keep up with your partner.
Great communication is so vital. When good communication is not there, it will just lead to arguments, misunderstandings, and eventually unhappiness. Respect each other. I can’t say this enough. Just because you are spending your life with someone, it doesn’t mean you can become comfortable and start being rude and short with your partner.
Show them respect always and likewise, demand the same from them. Show respect by being kind and understanding.; listening to your partner and making them feel understood and important is equally as pertinent to showing respect and great communication. These are key to staying in a happy and healthy relationship that will thrive.
It will not always be easy to keep the spark alive in your relationship, but no relationship is easy. All relationships take hard work and a commitment to putting forth your best effort. It’s true that putting in the work can often be rewarding. Wouldn’t you find it satisfying to know you are in a healthy relationship where the spark is always there? You should always look forward to seeing your partner; they should be your safe place. It’s good to remember that in order to thrive with your partner, you have to remember the key elements of good communication, respect and good listening skills. Likewise, you should always practice good habits, every single day.
What good habits do you practice to keep the spark alive in your relationships?