Everyone these days can create an image of themselves they wish to be and present it to the world – makeup, filters, botox, material things on a credit card receipt, you name it, the accessibility is endless. All created and designed for us to alter the way we look and present ourselves to the world, our families, and even to ourselves. The transformation has no limits and now with AI, anything is possible. So here is the question: How can we show up with authenticity in an increasingly fake world?
Let’s start with what authenticity means. I see authenticity as an expression of the love you have for yourself, the respect you give to your needs, and the nourishment you provide to your soul.
The more you love who you are, the less you seek validation and approval from the external world.
You allow yourself the gift of ‘loving you,’ unconditionally, with all the flaws and imperfections you have because they make you… you. The curves you don’t like, the nose that sticks out too much, the poor neighborhood you grew up in. The way you look and everything you have been through and experienced makes you the special and unique person you are – so why do we want to be someone else? Why do we think that we are less attractive, desirable or not worthy?
How Is Our Authenticity Compromised In A Fake World?
Ever since we were little, we (and our families), have been programmed by social media, advertisements, TV, the fairy tales and movies, to believe that happiness is found on the outside. It’s injected with perceptions of fear, “not enoughs”, chasing someone else’s dreams while consumed by the desire for more: more money, more beauty, more popularity, more control.
Later on, as we entered the school system, the visage of who we should be was rubbed into our faces daily by people who also experienced programming from their environment. And little by little, we all lost the authentic version of ourselves.
The things we used to do, imagine, or pretend to be, faded away. On occasions they do show up from time to time and you get a glimpse of it, but we push it down, deep down into the bottom pit because we think that we are not cool, trendy, in style, or my favorite… “normal.”
The other hand, we encounter the argument of, “ I don’t have time, money, or resources to follow my dream or my passion.” But is it truly a matter of time and money? Or, is it the fact that we don’t really know what we are passionate about or how to find it?
Why Is It Important To Be Authentic In A Fake World?
The reason why I am asking is because the challenges we face over and over again arise from us chasing things that we aren’t meant to chase. Along the way of becoming an adult, we lose the understanding of the tremendous power that we have over the way we live our lives, how we deal with obstacles, and the way we show up for ourselves.
Have you ever met someone that was not particularly special yet you liked them? You liked their “vibe” and it made you wonder… What makes the person feel so different? You probably thought about that person, trying to figure out their secret.
Well I know the secret. It was their energy that you liked. It made you feel warm and open, like you could be yourself around that person. There was no judgment, no masks, no pretending. Just a real moment, presence. That is how authenticity feels. The deepest, truest version of yourself in a moment, fully expressed holding a space for whatever comes.
Cultivating Authenticity In An Increasingly Fake World
Authenticity is driven by curiosity and exploring the edges of your being. Here are my 4 Secrets to Authenticity in a Increasingly Fake World
1. Power of Words
Speaking with Intention
Everything starts with an intention and where we put our focus. It might seem insignificant, yet its the principle of how the Universe works. Intentions are very important. Let’s say that our intentions (aka thoughts) are rooted in a desire or need to control others, gossip, or feelings of anger. Then, what we are actually doing is asking the Universe to bring these scenarios back to us in people, places, and circumstances. And here is why:
Every word has a frequency
Every thought has emotion attach to it
Emotion = energy in motion
You don’t attract what you want – You attract who you are!
Listen to your communication and how you express yourself, your desire or what you are calling for when speaking to others. Do you concentrate and talk about what you don’t have, how bad your life is and how much you suffer? Or are you grateful for what you have accomplished, proud of what you have survived, and assured you deserve everything that is about to come into your life?
2. Healing Childhood Wounds
Who we are now, in this moment, is shaped by what we have been through in our childhood. By avoiding and pushing away any painful memories, traumas we experienced or shameful things we did, it creates limitations and sets expectations. This consequently applies fears to our daily lives and dictates what we can and cannot do or become.
Recognize the wounds: Identify the specific experience, the moment that caused pain, fear or shame embedded into your memory. How is it shaping the person you are now? What is it triggering? Does it bring repetitive obstacles or relationships? Is it holding you back from doing or asking for more?
Allow it to be released: Yes, it’s painful and uncomfortable and you will feel the emotion but when you consciously allow it to come forward, you transmute the energy of it. The fear will lose its control over you and then the magic happens – when you allow it to be released.
When identified, say this affirmation:
“I thank you _______(use what seems appropriate: pain, fear, shame) for keeping me safe and protected but I no longer need you – I am releasing you now.”
I know it sounds simple. It’s because it is. The hardest part of healing is to find it, take responsibility for it and face it. So don’t run away from it. Don’t push it deep down -set yourself free so that a new and expanded version of you can step forward. Doing so means reclaiming your authenticity in an increasingly fake world.
3. Chasing the Invisible
We often don’t realize that our actions are initiated from an invisible belief or desire that is missing. What is it that you are chasing? Fame, money, respect, love, worth, control? Often this takes us back to our childhood. What was it that you were not getting as a child, teenager? Who did you want it to come from?
When we chase we operate from fear!
Fear is generated from something you believe to be true first.
Observe your belief.
Example: I believed that in order to be loved I had to deserve it. I was chasing love and attention and I felt I had to work and perform to be loved.
What are you chasing? What are you believing to be true about yourself that makes you feel a certain way?
Deep down you probably know, but now what? What do we do with the realization? The feeling that we were not _______ enough growing up?
You probably won’t like what I’m about to say, but to heal and find peace, so that you stop chasing, is to forgive. Yes, forgiveness. I know it’s not an easy task. But to make it a little easier, remember that your parents were also programmed by their parents and had childhood wounds that were never healed.
Do you see how the cycle repeats? And just know that forgiving them doesn’t mean you have to become best friends again or jump back into a relationship if you’re not ready. It simply means you’re freeing the energy that has been tangling your growth.
Are you ready to break the cycle?
4. Lessons to Be Learned
There is a reason why you are being challenged. And often this is by the same types of scenarios or by attracting the same kinds of people and challenges. You see, the whole purpose of our existence here on Earth is to remember who we are while expressing self-love and unity for all. Every argument, downfall, failure, or setback carries a lesson for you.
Look at one thing that has been bothering you the most lately. Ask yourself, “What do I need to learn about myself, my beliefs, or the person who is involved? Where have I lost myself in the process of trying to find harmony, confidence, companionship, or love?”
When you start looking at it from this perspective, things will start to reveal themselves because you allow yourself to observe more of you—your perceptions, habits, the way you speak to yourself, and how you perceive others. Trust me, the treasure box is full of surprises. And ultimately these surprises will guide you to your authenticity in an increasingly fake world.
Opening Your Tresure Box
After you find your treasure, I would love for you to do one thing—CALL YOUR POWER BACK TO YOU. And here’s why: we often give away our energy and our power, causing us to feel drained, insignificant, and tied up. When you reclaim your power, you signal to the universe that you are ready to stand more firmly in your truth, learn your lessons, and, as a result, attract something new.
Repeat this affirmation: “I call my power back to me from every person, place, space, and time, from every connection, attachment, and vessel where I left it. Anyone or anything that attempts to weaken my energy does not have my consent to use my vitality, and I call my power back.”
Learn your lessons, call your power back to you so that you can attract something new—rise to a different timeline.
Final Thoughts On Authenticity In An Increasingly Fake World
Authenticity comes from understanding YOU—how you operate and how you love yourself, not from the outside look, but from within. It’s your vibe, your energy that radiates and shines out to whoever you come in contact with, not the brand you wear, the makeup you use, or the material things you present.
That is the magic, that is the secret sauce you are looking for—the authenticity that blooms from self-love. It’s the projection of how much you love yourself.
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By Iveta Kuzela
Iveta Kuzela, founder of Dynamics of Conversation, is an energetic healer and motivational speaker who integrates work in spiritual awakening, energetic alignment, and fostering a peaceful mind. Her wellness services are infused with gentle techniques such as Subconscious Releasing, breathwork, and the healing energy of Shamanic Reiki, complemented by coaching, to cultivate a nurturing environment for personal growth, self-discovery, and authentic expression. Iveta empowers clients with a dedicated focus on guiding individuals through physical pain, old patterns, traumas, and inherited negative beliefs from their families, culture, and society.
