I think we’ve all had periods of time in our lives where we’ve lost ourselves a bit. Feeling lost and not knowing who you are or what you want can be extremely scary and disheartening. However, it can also be a gift. Before I lose you there, hear me out. Yes, losing yourself is unfortunate, but the journey to find and fall in love with yourself again can be a beautiful journey too.
That is what I’m finding in my own experience, and I bet you’ll feel the same too. In this post I’ll be sharing some things you can do to help find yourself again. Keep reading, your re-ignited self love journey awaits.
How To Fall In Love With Yourself Again
The following 14 actions are a great way to take action and put you on a path to falling in love with yourself again. While some may be fun and exciting, others may be hard to face. Lean into them all and you’ll thank yourself later when you reflect on how beautiful this journey was for you.
1) Spend Some Time Alone And Unplugged
Before you get started, it’s a good idea to do some reflecting on how you got here. Whether you book a staycation for a weekend alone, or take a mental health day from work, find a way to give yourself some time for clarity.
In this period of time you should be as unplugged and undistracted as you can get, I know that may not be achievable in some cases. Spend some time answering the following questions.
- Why do you think you feel lost right now?
- When do you think these feelings started?
- When was the last time you felt truly happy and alive? Be as descriptive as possible here (What were you doing, what were you like, etc.)
- What do you enjoy doing?
- If you had unlimited time and an unlimited budget what would you want to do?
- What do you hope to gain from this self love journey?
2) Do Something That Your Inner Child Would Love
Think about what you enjoyed as a kid. Did you love to color? Was playing outside when you felt the most happy? Were you obsessed with all the popstars pictured on the posters all over your room (or maybe that was just me)? Then make a plan to bring that to your current life.
Buy an adult coloring book, get some chalk and decorate the sidewalk at your house, or listen to an album you loved growing up. Once you do this, take note of how you feel after.
3) Work On Your Mindset To Fall In Love With Yourself Again
You may have brief relief and find happiness when doing some of these activities, However, they will always be fleeting if you don’t work on your mindset along with doing the fun stuff.
There are many ways that you can work on your mindset. My favorite ways are by reading personal development books, practicing switching negative self talk into positive self talk, and celebrating small wins.
4) Add Something New To Your Life
You could be feeling lost and unhappy because you’ve simply changed. It’s normal to change through different parts of your life. If we all always stayed the same I think the world would be pretty boring, don’t you? I believe where we get stagnant is not knowing what to do with the change.
We get so desperate to hang on to what is familiar that we don’t give ourselves the freedom to explore the new change. This is where adding something new to your life can help. You could try a new hobby, make a new friend, or even switch careers. Pay attention to what makes you curious and go for it.
5) Do Something You Haven’t Done In A Long Time
On the opposite side of the previous point. You feeling lost may not be a result of changing, but more so out of missing something. Life gets busy with work, family, and everything else vying for our attention.
Sometimes we can let our passions and activities we enjoy slip through the cracks. So if you haven’t done your favorite hobby in a while, treated yourself to something you enjoy, or spent time with friends in a while, make a plan to do it soon. Then of course take note of how you feel after.
6) Get More Sleep To Fall In Love With Yourself Better
Sometimes the unsettled feeling comes from bad habits and unhealthy behaviors. If you didn’t know, sleep is important for pretty much all aspects of your health, even your mental health. Getting more sleep and having a good night time routine could be the key to feeling more love towards yourself.
7) Experiment With Your Look
I’m not saying that your appearance is important when it comes to loving yourself and feeling good about yourself. Those things are much bigger than something more superficial like how you look. However, liking the way we look can add to the positive view of ourselves.
Also, when you are changing so much with your inner self, sometimes it can be fun to match that with changing your outer self. Whether it’s something small like changing your signature lipstick, or more drastic like coloring your hair, whatever you feel called to do in this process is what you should do.
8) Romanticize The Mundane So You Can Fall For Yourself All Over Again
One of the activities I’ve loved the most in my personal self love journey has been romanticizing my life more. It could be buying myself flowers to put in my room more often, setting up relaxing vibes when doing my skincare so it feels more like a spa experience, or picking the perfect playlist that goes with what mood I’m in.
There are a plethora of ways that you can romanticize your own life to help you fall in love with yourself again. Pick a few of them and see how you feel after doing them for a good bit of time.
9) Ask Loved Ones To Tell You What They Love About You
This may be a little more direct and awkward to do, but the result could really change things for you. Oftentimes we get in our heads about how we think others see us. More often than not people can truly surprise us by actually viewing us in a higher light than we view ourselves. Doing this activity can look something like sending out this text to your close family, friends, coworkers, etc.:
“Hey I know this question is a little random but I found this prompt and I’m curious what my answers will be. If you had to describe me in three words how would you describe me? Like what are three traits that you admire most that I have?”
10) Listen To A Self Love Playlist
I’m all about surrounding yourself with the vibes you want to feel/attract. That’s why I love listening to my self love playlist anytime I need a little boost. Whether you make your own playlist or save mine, give it a try and see how you feel after listening to it a couple days in a row.
11) Stop Comparing Yourself To Others So You Can Fall In Love With Yourself Again
There is a reason why the quote “comparison is the thief of joy” is so popular. Spending all your energy thinking about everything you are not in comparison to those you see out on the town or scrolling on social media is bringing you down.
No wonder you feel stuck, you are trying to stack your whole life up to someone’s highlight reel. If you can stop all the comparison I’m sure you will find much more happiness in your life.
12) Find A Form Of Exercise You Love
Like I mentioned before, your health plays a big part of how you feel mentally. This is definitely the case when it comes to your movement habits. The more you exercise the more happier you will feel because working out releases endorphins.
The key to exercising regularly is finding a form of exercise you enjoy. You may need to attempt a few different kinds of workouts before finding one you vibe with. You could try a bike class, dancing, pilates, or even strength training. There are a variety of options for you.
13) Forgive Yourself
Sometimes we can hold on to resentment for where we’ve ended up. It’s not fun to admit that self love is hard for you or that you feel lost. Internalizing and blaming yourself is not going to help you feel better though. If you only do one thing on this list let it be this, forgive yourself. Then look forward to a life where you feel free from blame.
14) Show Yourself Some Love
We’ve reached the end of the list. I hope you have found something to try on this self love journey you are going on. I want to leave you with one more activity.
Think about how you want people to show you love, then show yourself that love. If you wish someone would take you to go see that new movie, buy a movie ticket for one and go see it. Show yourself some love, because you deserve it.
Last Thoughts On How You Can Fall In Love With Yourself Over And Over
Whether you end up doing all of these actions, or only a few, I truly hope they help you find self love. Check out some of our other self love articles down below.
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- 4 Ways to Build a Strong Foundation for Self Love
About the Author
Kelly graduated from Liberty University with a degree in Advertising and Public Relations and a minor in Journalism. Even though it took her a little while to find her career path, she was always meant to be in Communications. She remembers writing poems and songs when she was a little girl and pitching to my parents the reasons why I should have a cell phone when I was a teenager. She currently has a blog (budding-joy.com) where she talks about her weight-loss journey, mental health and personal development. Her hope is to encourage and inspire readers and let them know they are not alone. Reading blog posts like that are what helped her in tough times and she wants to pay it forward. She loves dance fitness, listening to music, and creating layouts in her bullet journal. She's a big fan of planning, especially when cute notebooks and pens are involved. Her dream job has changed so much over the years; right now she'd love to co-own a dance studio.
Website: budding-joy.com