It was doomed from the beginning. No matter how the relationship started it was a bomb just patiently waiting to explode. I get it, the heart wants what the heart wants. We cannot control whom we are attracted to nor can we control whom we love. While you may know better than to fall in love with someone who is taken, feelings can sometimes get the best of us. Before you jump head first into that myriad of emotions there are some things you must take into account before it all goes KABOOM!
Be real about the situation. Is it really love or is it a deep set physical desire to have this person? This day and age, it is not uncommon for people to be attracted to others whether in a relationship or not. At some point, you are going to have to understand that if he was in love with you, he would have already left his current significant other. If he feeds you some bogus line about why he can’t, well he’s not a man and that is damn sure something you don’t need. Men cheat for many reasons, mostly it’s because they crave variety. Don’t kid yourself into thinking that he will leave his girlfriend for you. If he hasn’t done it already he probably never will. Don’t be ashamed or upset; these things happen. The best you can do is pick yourself up and move on. Go out with the girls, put on your best leather leggings, killer heels, and jump right back in the game. I wont sit here and tell you that there a million fish in the sea because that’s crap. There are a million fish, but not a million fish that will appeal to you. So go out have fun and find a man who wants and needs you, only you.
It’s not glamorous. Being the other woman is not an easy task nor is it something to brag about. Think back to the beginning stages of any previous relationship and remember how exciting it was to tell all of your friends about this wonderful new man in your life. When your involved with a man who is taken, conversation among friends doesn’t flow so easy without some “oh, no she didn’t” looks being passed your way. No matter how close you think you are with your friends, someone will pass judgment and it will not be pretty.
It will rip you and everyone else apart. Think about all the damage you are causing. Not only to yourself, but to the other woman, even to the guy who’s at the root of all the problems. Having an affair is a tricky situation and something you should not take lightly. Your own well-being and self worth will take a beating.
Is an affair really worth the nights spent crying over someone who isn’t really yours?
About the Author
Amanda is currently a Contributing Writer at GenTwenty. She works as an Executive Assistant. She enjoys cars, reading cheesy romance novels, and tackling DIY projects she thinks she can handle. She hopes to one day own her own online magazine and creative design company.
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