Why Your Twenties Are the Best Time to Reinvent Yourself

Your twenties are usually thought of as the decade you’re meant to find yourself. We’re not saying that’s not true. But what if instead of finding yourself, you’re actually reinventing yourself? And honestly, your twenties are the best time to reinvent yourself.

Hear us out on this little reinvention. We’re not saying you have to change who you are entirely. That’s where the confusion comes in; reinvention isn’t about becoming someone completely different. Instead, it’s about allow yourself to evolve, to grow a person. All of this can happen naturally, too, as your priorities, interests and goals change, which tends to happen during this decade.

If the person you were at 17 or 18 feels completely different than who you are today, that’s a good thing–and totally normal! But also, if you thought you’d have your life figured out by now, and you don’t… join the club, you’re not alone.

Reinvent Yourself in Your Twenties

Your twenties are this unique time where you have freedom, flexibility and that time and ability to self-discover. All of this makes it the perfect time to try new things. So do just that!

Still don’t believe us? Here’s what really makes your twenties a great time to reinvent yourself.

You Have Much More Freedom Thank You Think You Do

You may think you don’t have a lot of freedom. But you really do, especially when compared to later decades where you may have things like a partner, children or a leadership role to take into consideration (if that’s part of your future plan)!

Your freedom in your twenties allows you to focus just on you. This gives you more room to experiment with careers, cities, hobbies and relationships. Changing a path like that isn’t a failure, it’s normal, it’s all part of discovery. This is the time to do just that and to also learn that you don’t have to choose one version of yourself and stick with it forever.

Nobody Really has It All Figured Out

Social media makes us think that everyone else is already living their dream life; they have it all figured out. But social media doesn’t give the full picture. In reality, most twenty-somethings are still figuring things out, and figuring them out as they go.

The quarter-life crisis is real. Feeling lost is real. Neither is a sign that you’re behind. This uncertainty shouldn’t be seen as a problem to solve or something to wallow in. Instead, see this as an opportunity for you to explore.

Your Twenties are Full of Firsts so Really is the Best Time to Reinvent Yourself

This decade is going to be full of big, milestone firsts–ones that will no doubt change you and especially change your priorities. Many firsts people experience in their twenties include their first apartment, first “real” job, first serious relationship, first major setback and first time making decisions–including big ones–on their own.

All of these will change you, whether in a big way or a small way. You will learn from them, you will grow from them and they will all teach you something about yourself. You are going to learn what you want and what you like, and on the flip side, you are going to learn what you don’t want and what you don’t like. All of that will reinvent you, even if you don’t realize it.

Know You’re Allowed to Outgrow Things When It’s Time to Reinvent Yourself

That’s right, just like you’re going to have a ton of firsts in your twenties, you are also going to outgrow things, too. You’ll outgrow career goals, hobbies, beliefs, priorities and even friendships. That’s right, your friendships will change in your 20s, and that’s okay and normal.

You may grow apart from certain friendships, especially as your interests change or as people move away. You may realize a career you once wanted no longer excites you. Or, you may have loved nightlife at 21, but now prefer a quiet weekend.

All of that is okay, and all of it is part of reinventing yourself. Outgrowing things doesn’t mean you’ve failed or become disloyal. All of this change is a sign of growth, and that’s what your twenties are for.

Reinvention Doesn’t Have to Be Dramatic

Let’s be honest–when we hear the word reinvention, we think something big. When it comes to talking about it in terms of ourselves, we think of it as becoming a totally new person, but that’s not what reinvention is.

There’s a misconception that you need to do some pretty big things to really reinvent yourself, like quitting your job, moving across the world or becoming an entirely different person. In reality, there are so many smaller ways you can reinvent yourself. This includes reading more, starting therapy, taking a class, setting boundaries, changing your routine, learning a skill and saying yes to new experiences.

These changes may seem small, but they really compound over time. Many times, reinvention, especially in your twenties, looks more like a gradual evolution instead of a dramatic makeover. And, with so many other changes happening in life, your twenties will truly feel like the best time to reinvent yourself

The Person You Become at 30 May Surprise You

We know–you don’t want to think about your 30s just yet, we get it, we don’t want to either! But we do want to know that many people look back and barely recognize who they were in their early twenties. That isn’t because they lost themselves along the way; it’s because they grew… and that’s what happens in your twenties!

Another thing to remember? Your future, thirty year old self won’t care if the path to get there looks messy. Instead, they’ll care that you evolved the way you did, and you had the experiences–failures included–to become the person you’re meant to be.

Embrace the 20s as the Best Time to Reinvent Yourself

Your twenties may seem like a deadline; society and social media has put that pressure on us. But they aren’t! Instead, they’re a time for trial and error. Remember, you’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to start over. You’re allowed to become someone new multiple times.

All of that is reinventing yourself, whether you realize it or not. Instead of focusing on “finding yourself” In your twenties, instead, give yourself permission to become the person you’re growing into.

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