Quality over quantity, right? Invest in your relationships. There's no better time to be a better friend.

As we get older our friendships become more important to us. We’re no longer thinking about how many friends we have, but instead about the quality of the friends we let into our lives.

When we we’re younger, it seemed like we always wanted to know as many people as possible. We wanted friends who were going to be able to do something for us — get us in somewhere, get us a discount, hook us up — you know the type.

Now in my late twenties, I care about those friends who have stuck by me and always been there for me. Those ones who I can laugh with over nothing. The ones who don’t ask me for anything other than to just be myself. You know those friends I’m talking about.

I think we all should take the time to make sure we are being good friends to those who really love and care for us.

Here are 5 ways you can be a better friend:

1. Don’t be a flake.

Yes, things come up but when you consistently break plans your friends start to know you as the flakey friend.

The result is you get invited to things less and less because people realize they can’t rely on you to honor your commitments. Your friends’ time should be important to you and by always cancelling plans you are showing them with your actions that you don’t care about their time.

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So next time you want to bail because you are too tired or something better came along, think about how that will affect your friendship.

2. Take time to listen.

If you expect your friend to listen to you, you should be able to return the favor. You are not the only person who needs to talk things out. Being able to really listen to your friends will show them you care about their lives.

If you are one of those friends who just listen waiting to find a time to interrupt your friend to talk about yourself they will eventually stop talking to you. And instead just let you talk at them.

Communication is important in any relationship and being able to have a friend who really listens is someone you want to keep around.

3. Forgive the little things.

No one is perfect, including you. Sometimes we all mess up. Which means your friend will mess up or let you down. It is the little things that our friends do that might disappoint us that we should forgive.

If it rarely happens you should let them know what’s up, but also you need to let it go and move forward. If you hold onto the little things they will eventually become big things that will effect your friendship.

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4. Make time.

You cannot expect someone to make time for you all the time when you do not try to find the time to be with him or her. If a friend needs some help or support find the time to be there for them.

As we get older, life gets in the way and we see our friends less and less than we used to. It is that effort of making time for them that will show your friends how much you care about them and respect their time as well.

5. Don’t judge.

Let’s face it — we all are guilty of judging people. Even those of us who try not to still do it. The worst thing you can do to your friend is judge them. When I feel like friends are judging me, I will pull away and pick and choose the things I tell them about my life.

So try to leave your judgments at the door when you are with your friends. If they ask for advice about something going on in their life then give them advice don’t offer it up as a judgment. Your friendship will benefit more from it.

Tis’ the season to honor those who you care about so take the time to make sure you are taking the time to be a good friend to those who you love.

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Being a good friend is always something you should strive for. So go out today and let your friends know how much you care about them. It’s the little things that make the biggest impact.