Patience waiting

Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock.

This is the sound of your internal clock ticking. With each passing minute, your biological clock is passing time, waiting for you to reach the next stage in your life. Have you found yourself searching for companionship lately? Yes, that’s your internal self searching for a life partner. Does the sight of infants tug at your heart and cause you to yearn for children of your own? Sounds like your body and mind are signaling you might be ready to become a parent! Is your apartment, dorm room, or parent’s house starting to become dreadfully old? Yeah, it appears you may very well be ready to start thinking about owning your own home.

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re likely experiencing desirable and/or jealous emotions. Before you start worrying yourself into a stressful frenzy, know that this is entirely normal. Twenty-somethings are all too eager to grow up and mature as quickly as possible. As soon as we see our friends, former high school peers, coworkers, and other twenty-somethings hosting weddings, baby showers, and housewarming parties, we tend to feel a bit nervous and a tad envious of them. In short, we feel as though we are missing out.

Naturally, why wouldn’t we be experiencing these symptoms? As an outsider looking in, life looks grand! Marriage, babies, and owning your own home are not only an expected part of life, but are also all components that society has deemed necessary to find happiness and solace. These BIG steps are ones you have likely dreamt of since childhood. Come on, what little girl doesn’t imagine what her own wedding will look like someday, or envision herself as a future mother? Not to generalize, but at least most of us do!

To take the edge off of your guilty desires, I do want you to know that you are not alone. Being a twenty-something comes with a whole lot of transitions. If you’re not working toward solidifying a college degree, chances are you’re competing in the job market for that prized career. On top of professionalizing yourself and discovering what you want in life, how are you supposed to juggle marriage, a family, and your own home? Don’t worry fellow twenty-somethings, it will all pan out in due time.

For now, remember these facets of patience and just breathe:

(1) Learn to be happy with what you already have: When you’re setting high goals for yourself or always looking onward toward the next best thing, it can be easy to forget all of the goodness right in front of you. Take a moment to appreciate your surroundings. Smell the flowers. Remember to live in the now because you’ll have plenty of time to be a married, home-owning parent later.

(2) Keep your perspective: What is important to you in this moment? Is it graduating college? Learning to live independently? Traveling the world? Right now, you are your own person. Focus on the path you’re on and the rest will follow.

(3) Reign in your emotions: You can be happy for your married, parenting, home-owning peers without being jealous. Honor the notion that they were ready before you, and move on. Your time will come!

Tell us, what is your chosen art of patience?