Floating around the web-iverse these days are two very contrasting ideas:
- “Five tips to shed those extra pounds to fit into that perfect bikini!”
- “How to get a perfect bikini body: Buy a bikini, put it on your body. Done!”
What sucks is that most of us so want to follow the second and screw the rest of society who wants to convince us that the first is the only way to go. Unfortunately, society wins enough to make a difference, which sucks even more.
Still, the second message is more important. If you truly want to be comfortable in that stupid itty-bitty, yellow polkadot bikini, then you have to accept your body (and all bodies) for the way they are and not obsess over those last ten pounds you want to lose before the first beach day or pool party of the season.
Here are three mantras to repeat to yourself as you slip into your summer attire (by the way, you look great!):
“My body is not only a temple, but it also belongs in a temple.”
Girl, your body deserves to be worshipped, anointed daily with wonderfully smelling oils and lotions, draped in the finest fabrics from around the world, and kissed from head to toe. You are a goddess of the goddesses and your heavenly vessel deserves respect now, not when you lose the weight you want to lose, not when you get to your ideal size – now.
Your body is amazing and does amazing things. It’s gotten you this far; it’s important to trust that it will get you through everything else the rest of you life. This is your only body (unless you become the Bionic Woman or something, which might not be out of the realm of possibility the way technology is going these days), truly ‘til death do you part.
So why criticize and punish it with crash diets and over-exhausting workouts just to squeeze into a piece of fabric? Give your body the benefit of the doubt – it’ll take care of itself, I promise. That’s what it was made for.
“My body is body-shaped and all bodies are good bodies.”
Despite what the haters might say, the way your body is shaped does not determine the kind of clothes you can wear. Never feel like you have to wear a certain cut or style because someone else has foolishly defined your body a certain way and given you limitations on how you adorn yourself.
You are not apple-shaped, pear-shaped, raspberry-shaped, or anything other fruit-shaped. If anything, you’re starfruit-shaped because Andy, you’re a star. You’re also, simply, body-shaped and all clothes fit your body.
You want to wear an adorable maxi dress with a cut-out back? You werk that dress. You want to wear high-waisted shorts and a crop top? Get it, girl. The same goes for that bikini. Slap it on your gorgeous bod and flaunt it.
All bodies are beautiful and good bodies and the clothes you wear have nothing to do with that.
“I answer to no one but myself.”
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for anything you do – or wear, in this case. It sounds cliche (but it’s true), but if someone has something to say about the way you look, and you did not directly ask for their opinion, their comment says more about them than you. If they have an issue with what you look like, that’s their problem. They do not have any say in your body or how it behaves; that is all you.
Like the good Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” No one has the permission to make you feel guilty for the way you dress or the swimsuit you choose to wear. You should never need to defend yourself or give any reason to take up space and decorate that space however you choose. They are not worthy of your words.
No matter how you decide to decorate your body this summer, be it a bikini, a flowy skirt, or a crop top (or all three – you want to plan for everything for a day at the beach), or none of the above, werk that ish that nobody’s business – because it is nobody’s business.