There are only a few things slightly more terrifying than diving head first into a new relationship, like maybe jumping out of a plane or finding a nest of poisonous spiders on your front porch. But there’s also few things as exciting as starting a new adventure with someone you really like (such as going to Disneyland for the first time or finding out the second season of New Girl is on Netflix). Being scared and excited for a fresh relationship isn’t an out-of-the-ordinary thing; everyone feels the way you do at some point in time.

New relationships are like newborn babies. I’ve never had a baby, but I’ve held loads of them. I know that you’ve got to be gentle and hold them like the Hope Diamond is in the palm of your hand.

The same goes for new relationships.

They’re fragile and one wrong move can break them. You’re going to constantly be nervous: trying not to burp in front of them, specifically not eating hot wings in front of them (there is NO cute way to eat hot wings), and always worrying about whether or not you can tell them that crude joke. According to Lisa Daily in an article titled, “Dating Averages: What’s Your Normal?”, the most common time for break-ups is between three to five months, so the fear of being dumped will be in the back of your mind for the first part of the relationship.

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But on the flip side, new relationships can be more exciting than Christmas morning. The permanent butterflies never get annoying and the feeling of their hand in yours will always make you smile. Every day with them is the beginning of some new, thrill-seeking ride. New adventures are continually enthralling because you never know what to expect and new relationships are just the same. The mysteriousness of it all makes new relationships so exciting. You aren’t yet in a routine and you aren’t yet so in-sync that you’ll know what they’ll do or say next – it’s the thrill of the unknown.

Sometimes, though, the unknown scares us more than it excites us. As A Cinderella Story taught us: “Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.” The fear of losing the new relationship shouldn’t keep you from leaping into the thrill of it. When you take full responsibility of your new adventure, you’ll appreciate it more when it turns out to be one of the greatest things in your life. And even if it doesn’t turn out to be that great, it’s always a learning experience.

So although you might throw-up because of the butterflies and the nerves every time they want to see you, the nerves will pass but hopefully the butterflies stay.

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