Let me start off by saying my mom is truly my best friend. We are so close, in every sense of the word. When we bicker, it’s more like sisters than mother and daughter. She’s the Lorelei to my Rory, so much so that we danced to the “Gilmore Girls” theme song together at my wedding. Yet, there’s something now that makes me see my mother differently than before.
I thought I loved and appreciated my mom in every sense of the word – that is until I became a mother myself. I love and appreciate her more now than ever before.
Your perspective changes when you become a mother. You change when you become a mother. I knew both of those things. But what I didn’t realize is that I would see my own mother in a completely differently light.
I’m now looking at her not just through a daughter’s perspective, but now as a mother too, and wow, let me tell you, it really is pretty incredible.

As A Mom, Here’s How I See My Mother Differently Now
It’s not easy to put into words exactly how I see my mother differently now that I’m a mother too, but I’m going to try my best to do it – and her – justice.
I Now Know What She Went Through
Motherhood is not easy. Labor and delivery is not easy. The newborn trenches are not easy. Raising a child is not easy. Keeping the house clean is not easy. You don’t realize just how hard all of these things are until you experience them for yourself.
Knowing my mother didn’t just go through all of this – but she went through all of this for me, is really an awe-inspiring experience. I also just could not be more grateful now that I know just how much work, time, patience and love it really takes.
I Understand Now How Much She Really Love Me
Don’t get me wrong, I always knew my mother loved me. I know she still loves me. But you don’t really understand how much love a mother has for their child until you become a mother.
My heart explodes every time I look at my baby. The fact that my mom felt that way – and still feels this way – about me? I never knew you could love someone this much, and now I know just how much she loves me.
She always said that she’d do anything for me and I kind of took it with a grain of salt. Now I get just how much she’d really do anything for me, just like I’d do anything for my baby.
Because I See My Mother Differently, I Want To Go Yell At My Teenage Self
As typical female teenagers do… I fought with my mom. I yelled. And I said some not so nice things. Now that I’m a mom I want to go and take them all back. I cannot believe I spoke to someone who tried to give me the entire world like that!
They say hindsight is 20/20 and that’s even more true when you become a parent yourself. We really take our parents for granted, and that’s not fair to them… but you probably won’t come to that realization until you have a child of your own.
I don’t even want to imagine my baby becoming a teenager and shrugging me off. I’m so sorry again, mom!

I Realize She Was Just Figuring Things Out Too
My mom had all the answers. I still think my mom has all the answers. But I know that’s not reality. As the firstborn, I see my mother differently because I now know she was figuring everything out with me.
It may sound like this would make me appreciate her less, but it does the opposite – it makes me appreciate her more. She never let off that she was figuring things out. And, she never let off any sort of insecurities. She was always my go-to and my rock. She still is!
Honestly, even though I know she doesn’t have all the answers, I still think of my mom as the one who can solve anything. I hope my kid thinks that about me, too, as I continue to figure this all out.
I Can Now See How She Was With Me As A Baby
One of the most incredible things about watching your mom become a grandmother is getting a glimpse at how they were with you as a baby. Sure, I have the photographs and home videos from my childhood, but seeing her interact with my baby, firsthand, fills my heart with so much joy.
It’s almost like looking back in time and seeing her play with me. It gives me chills just thinking of it! I see my mother so differently now that I am realizing this.
She Really Did Give Me The Best Role Model
They say you turn into your mother. I was slowly noticing this as I got older… and I really notice it now that I’m a mom. I’m saying phrases she used to say. I’m singing songs she used to sing to me.
I didn’t even do this on purpose – it happened subconsciously! One night as I was putting my baby to sleep, I said something and stopped myself because it’s something my mom used to say to be when putting me to sleep. She was the best role model for me, and I didn’t even realize it until I became a mom myself.

She’s Still The Strongest Person I Know
My mom was always the strongest person I knew. I didn’t think she could be any stronger, and now that I’m a mom, I know that she was stronger than I even realized. Any hard times we went through, she kept a strong face for me and now I know just how hard that really was for her.
I’m Still Her Baby Girl
I may now be a mother, but I know she’ll forever see me as her baby girl, just like I’ll see my child forever as my baby. This may seem like something small, but if you’re a parent, you know just how big it really is.
Thank you mom, for everything. I love you!
A Wrap On How I See My Mother Differently Now I’m A Mom
What an eye-opening experience and I hope that everyone has an opportunity to recognize just how significantly their mom shaped who they are and just how much she gave them!
Do you feel like you see and appreciate all that your mom was and is for you throughout your life? And, if you’re a mom now yourself, do you notice any of my experiences to be true for you? Share with us if there’s something more you see differently about your mother now that you’re a mom.