how to get over losing a job

As 2019 rolled in, I was embracing a new year full of new possibilities. I was making progress on my resolutions and convinced this was going to be a great year. Then, came the blow I hadn’t expected. I lost my job.

I’d never lost a job before. The feelings of uncertainty, grief, embarrassment, and anger were all overwhelming and instant. After three years of consistency, my life was being jolted into a completely different direction and I wasn’t ready.

A job loss is something you can’t always be prepared for, and paired with the rush of emotions it can feel like the end of the world. I’m here to truthfully tell you that it isn’t. Time heals all wounds, but there are also things you can do to help make the transition a little easier. Here are just a few that helped me get over losing a job.

How To Get Over Losing A Job

Practice self-care.

When you go through any major life change, your mental and even physical health can take a beating. The effects of unexpectedly losing a job are no different. It can leave you feeling humiliated, anxious, overwhelmed. With the weight of these negative emotions and stress, it can be so easy to get caught up in the “why me” of things and lose sight of the bigger picture.

Allow yourself time to grieve, but don’t dwell. This is the time when you need to make sure you spend a little extra time on you.

Do things that you enjoy, like cooking, journaling, yoga, whatever helps you to de-stress. Your well-being is more important than any job. If you take care of yourself along the way, you’ll find you’re in a much better headspace to tackle the loss and what comes next.

Prioritizing self-care can be a challenge during big life transitions. Our video below shares some tips to help make it smoother: 

Establish a routine.

While you’re coming to terms with the change it’s okay to enjoy your downtime. However, it’s important that you don’t let an unexpected vacation turn into a complete lack of motivation.

Without your regular schedule, it can be easy to slip into day after day of Netflix binging. If you can, try to establish a daily routine.

This also a good time to incorporate self-care! Continue to set an alarm each day and make a list of goals you want to accomplish for that day. Not only will this keep you productive, but it will also allow you to feel more in control of your life.

Here are some additional resources on establishing a routine:

Assess your next steps.

So, it’s finally the time to accept your new reality and assess what to do next. This can actually be an exciting time!

It is a chance for introspection. What are your wants and needs for your next job? What would you have changed about your last one? Do you want to switch fields? Do you want to stay in the same place geographically? 

If you ever wanted to make any changes, why not do it now? Update your resume to reflect on how you want to represent yourself in your next position. The world is now your oyster.

Related: 5 Questions That Will Help You Figure Out Your Next Steps

Move on.

Now is the time to focus on your future. To be moving forward and moving on. With a smile, your updated resume, and your newfound optimism, it’s time to get back out there.

Online job boards and websites such as Indeed are always a good place to start. But don’t rule out the face to face interaction. This is a chance to really market yourself. Muster up your courage and attend a job fair or networking events in your area! There are so many tools you can take advantage of to find your next opportunity.


Losing a job unexpectedly can be a setback but don’t underestimate your ability to bounce back. Should you find yourself in that situation, we hope these tips will help navigate you through.

Have you had to deal with the loss of a job? We’d love to hear from you! Make share to share your tips in the comments.