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Grief Is…

Grief is turning to tell your loved one something, forgetting they’re not there.

Grief is sitting on your couch staring at the spot your loved one used to sit in.

Grief is finding a birthday card from your loved one and just breaking down.

Grief is screaming, alone in your room, just to get it all out.

Grief is not being able to watch your favorite movie or listen to your favorite song because it reminds you of them.

Grief is watching videos you have of your loved one over and over again.

Grief is sitting in a car at 6 AM before your first big work event and crying, because you know you can’t call you loved one later and tell them all about it.

Grief is finishing your first week of work at a new job and having a breakdown on the walk home, because it’s the first big accomplishment you’ve had without them.

Grief is playing scenarios over and over again in your head that you wish you could do over.

Grief is feeling guilty about laughing.

Grief is screenshotting something to show to your loved one later, forgetting that you can’t.

Grief is feeling a pain in your heart that actually feels like you’re being stabbed.

Grief is having nightmares of the day your loved one was lost.

Grief is tossing and turning all night long.

Grief is not being able to fall asleep.

Grief is distancing yourself from some people, but surrounding yourself with those who loved your loved one, too.

Grief is celebrating your loved one’s birthday without them.

Grief is scrolling through their Facebook page, rereading all of the posts they wrote about you.

Grief is wondering what advice your loved one would give you.

Grief is remembering all of the advice that your loved one gave you.

Grief is breaking down without a moment’s notice, just because.

Grief is stress eating.

Grief is being too nauseous to eat.

Grief is sitting down at the table you used to eat dinner at and seeing the empty space.

Grief is putting a smile on your face and attempting to live every day to the fullest, because you know that is what your loved one would have wanted.

Grief is staring at the last picture you took of your loved one, not realizing that tears are running down your face.

Grief is wondering, “did they know?”

Grief is replaying every moment of that dreaded week over and over again.

Grief is being angry.

Grief is being sad.

Grief is feeling guilty about continuing to live life.

Grief is no longer being able to fully enjoy the holidays.

Grief is no longer being able to enjoy the things you used to love.

Grief knows no bounds.

There is no one way to grieve.

There is no textbook explanation on how to grieve.

Everyone grieves differently, at different times, in different ways.


About the Author

Michelle Ioannou

Michelle graduated from Fordham University with a Bachelors of Arts '13 and a Master of Arts '14. She's currently working in corporate America with a side of freelance writing. She wants you to learn from her experiences and mistakes so your 20s can be your best decade. When she's not working, she's likely planning her escape to a tropical island.