Sometimes life surprises you, and not in a good way. How you deal with a setback will make you or break you in the future.

There comes a time in everyone’s life where something unexpected is thrown in front of you. Suddenly, you find that you have to deal with a setback that wasn’t part of your plan.

Life always surprises you, and sometimes, you have no control over it. Setbacks come in all areas of life, whether it be our health that we always thought we would have or our careers we’ve been working hard to build.

One of the things that differentiates one person from another is how you handle these situations. The good news is, there are ways to prevail even when things go wrong.

Here are 5 ways to cope and deal with a setback:

1. Breathe.

Even when you want to go a million miles a minute to fix the bump in the road, you need to take a step back and really look at the situation in front of you to get a proper understanding of it.

It will allow you to think with a clear head, release some stress, and then give you time to figure out how to handle it. If you just jump in head first, you might miss something that could help you along the way.

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2. Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone.

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As much as you might want to, you need to try and find a confidant that you can rely on. They can not only help you get back on track, but they will also just be there as a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen.

It makes a world of difference when you can get the opinion of someone you trust.

3. Eliminate all blame.

One of the worst things you could do when you have a setback in front of you is play the blame game. It doesn’t help you or anyone around you to do that.

No matter who or what caused this setback to you, putting that blame on someone else or on yourself won’t help fix the issue. That is a waste of precious time and energy that can be used to get you back on the right path; Blame is never a solution.

4. Set goals.

Once you acknowledge a setback has happened, all you can do is look forward and set yourself up for success. Once the main problem is found, you can then make a plan to make that setback disappear.

No matter how you do this, it will give you some structure and allow you to challenge yourself and step outside your comfort zone.

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5. Once it’s over, learn from it and move on.

The one important part of life that allows us to grow and become better people is remembering the setbacks that we do come across.

By keeping those memories with us, we are able to pull the positives and experiences from them, helping us in our future. You won’t be successful if you don’t remember where you came from.

Remember to not look at the failure as a failure, it is life trying to make sure you are always learning, growing and becoming who you really want to be.

Once you have experienced a setback, that is a lesson you won’t forget. The minute you allow a setback to take over your life, is when you stop trying. Always try to look in front of you and take every situation that comes up in life as a positive human experience.

Have you experienced a unexpected setback recently? How did you deal?