Confidence

Do you ever feel like there are people who just coast through life with such ease? They seem to have the kind of confidence people are just drawn to. Then there are those of us who do not feel confident in everyday situations. I know I am not always confident, especially with new people or in new surroundings. I tend to get in my own head and start second-guessing myself. There is no reason to feel that way or to show that I feel that way. In these times, I have to remind myself that I can be a person who exudes confidence. Fake it till you make it, right?

When you really need to find that confidence try a few little tricks and people will be none the wiser. Here are three tactics to use to help boost your self-confidence in everyday situations so you can be that person who seems move around with great ease:

1. Power Words – This is a very simple way to help boost your confidence. Pick three adjectives you would like to focus on. It could be anything. If you are going into an interview or meeting, you might want words like smart, strong, powerful, creative, or determined. If you are going on a blind date or a night on the town, maybe your words are fun, sexy, beautiful, or witty. Once you have picked your power words say, “I am smart, strong and fun!” Now say it like you mean it and repeat it several times. It helps to give you the self-assurance you might be looking for in that moment.

2. Power Stance – This one may sound a little silly, but according to Charles Brown, Ph.D,  standing with your chest high and hands on your hips helps you feel bolder. Stand in front of a mirror before you head out of the house and pose in a power position that you think exudes power and strength. It could be a muscle man or a Superman pose. Do whatever you makes you feel strongest. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth 10 times. You can even do this while reciting your power words and kill two birds with one stone.

3. Practice good posture – Something so simple, many of us tend to forget about the importance of good posture. You will never see a confident person slouching. They are always standing tall, shoulders back and head held high. “Whenever you hunch your shoulders, cross your arms over your chest, or stare at the floor, you announce your self-consciousness,” says body-language expert Lillian Glass, Ph.D in Women’s Health. So start thinking about standing a little taller when you are out doing daily tasks and make good posture a habit. People will definitely start to take notice before you know it.

I try to do at least one of these three tricks when I am feeling a little self-conscious, whether I am out with friends or need a confidence boost for an important meeting or interview. Remember you are the only person worrying about the expectations of others. Give yourself a break and try your best to remember how amazing you are and walk tall. You will be exuding that confidence your friend always seems to have in no time.

 

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