Surviving a Friendship Break-Up
What happens when friendships end?
Sometimes friendships end. Whether you drift apart, have a hard breakup of a friendship or you’re ghosted by your friend, friendships end and it can be really tough.
Wondering how, why, or what to do when friendships end? Right this way...
Sometimes it's circumstantial.
When we're younger, we met friends at school, and the thing we have in common is that we live in the same place and go to the same school. When we're adults, we may make friends at work, but if we switch jobs the friendships don't always last.
You're going through hard times.
If one or both friends are going through hard times, it's not always possible to show up for them and yourself. Sometimes you have to take a step back, especially if you realize you are not being a good friend, or not able to be who your friend needs.
You're not making the same effort.
Friendships are a two-way street. If you are putting in more time and effort than the other person, it is hard to maintain that relationship. You're allowed to match their intention, or decide you want something different.
They disappear.
Ghosting is a bad behavior we've all experienced at some point. Even friends ghost, and if that's the case, there is nothing you can really do to prevent it or recover the friendship. It's OK to let go.
No two friendships are the same. However, each friendship deserves to have respect, boundaries, and supportive intent. Sometimes friendships end, and it can really hurt. But those who are meant to be in your life will stay, and you will find yourself naturally working to keep the right friends by your side.