Let’s pretend that you’ve accepted a new job in a city different than the one you grew up in. You’re undoubtedly excited about it. Yet deep in your heart, you know that things are about to change. This includes the friendships and other relationships you’ve grown to love over the years. How are you supposed to feel about leaving these people behind? Is letting go necessary? Is it easy?
Letting go of people can be one of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to do. In your twenties, you’re beginning to find out who you’re meant to be and where you want your life to go. Sometimes, this means letting go of people you’ve called “friends” to complete the process. But this isn’t always a thing to dwell on.
Sometimes, you meet people who become your lifelong friends. Other times, you’ll meet people who are in your lives for only a moment. While letting go of those who you call “lifelong” friends will be difficult, sometimes, people are only meant to be in our lives for a specific reason or time period. For instance, after you move to that new city where your exciting new job is, you probably won’t know anyone. You’re alone without a friend in sight for the first time in your twenty-something life.
So, what’s a girl to do? Befriend someone in your office. This type of friend is easy to let go of, simply because they were there at a confusing, new time in your life. However, these friends can also turn into lifelong friends, who are in your lives for the long haul (thank goodness we don’t have to worry about letting go of them).
Lastly, take a second to ponder this: reminisce about each failed relationship you’ve been in. Did it teach you something in the long run? We bet it did. Whether you were the one doing the process of letting go or not, we’re sure that you did it for a reason… and it probably wasn’t easy to simply get over.
This is what letting go feels like. And it’s more than OK to do it.
It might not feel great, but it’s a process we must come to terms with at some point in our lives (better sooner than never, right?).