Your friends rock. You spent most of your college days together. Outside of your family, they are the people you love the most, the people who don’t mind your quirkiness, who have laughed and cried with you, the people who will tell you when you are wrong and cheer for you when you are right. You love your friends and they love you. When you are still in college, it feels like you have all of the time in the world to study and hang out with your friends. Then suddenly, you graduate and life hits you all. You find that you are spread all over your state or even the country for that matter and remaining as close as you were becomes a challenge. You miss your friends and they miss you. You spend your time building beautiful relationships. So why are they so hard to maintain when we get older?
- Marriage. It’s a joyous life event but also one that certainly deserves a great amount of your time and attention.
- Divorce. This difficult and sensitive time will certainly be an adjustment in itself.
- Bringing a little bundle of love into the world changes things as well. Your focus is no longer on yourself, but on your little one instead.
- Moving. This is another adjustment that can be stressful and hectic.
- Work. Maybe a promotion or a new job altogether, you find yourself working hard to support yourself and your loved ones.
As you grow up, your priorities change. This does not mean that you do not love your friends anymore; it just means that things have shifted a little bit. You probably spent a large quantity of time with your friends before you begrudgingly moved on to the real world and it began to take over your previously fun-filled life. Life will bring about all sorts of changes for you, some good, others not so good. They change the dynamics of many of the relationships that you will have in your life will change. But time, space, and life events do not have to overshadow your friendships.
Making time is probably the most important thing you can do to keep your friendships fresh. There are so many ways to communicate with the ones you love, and it may just be exactly what you need. You will probably come to appreciate the quality of time that you will get with your friends over the quantity. You might also notice that each time you speak, it will feel like you are picking up right where you left off. Just like any other kind of relationship, friendships are a two way street. Finding time that is convenient for both of you may be the biggest hurdle. Make these relationships a priority. It’s human nature to connect with others and having friends is actually good for you.
Don’t let adulthood be a friendship killer. Friends don’t let friendships fall apart.
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