College graduation

I’ll be upfront with y’all, I am not doing well right now. I’m graduating from college this Saturday and my brain is going too many miles a second for my body to properly function. My anxiety levels are at an all time high and I have so many “what-if” questions, I can’t make any real plans for fear that nothing will work out.

Now, I don’t mean to say this to stress you out even more. If you’re graduating soon, congratulations! You did it! You made it through college! You’re all fancy and educated and have an official title you can put on resumes and job applications.

But I know your feels. College is a nice cushion to fall back on. Being a student has all the benefits of being a real adult, without all the responsibilities. It’s nice.

But it’s time to put on your big kid pants and face the world. Here’s how in various areas:

About a job and/or the general future:
If you’ve been too focused on your schoolwork to find a job (I’ll help you paddle that boat), I’m going to tell you right now, that it’s going to work out. A wise person (no one is quite sure who) once said, “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” It may not feel like it now, but you’ll make it. The next few months are going to continue to be stressful while you’re simply figuring out where to take your life next, but wherever that leads you is going to be a learning experience, a loving experience, and an important experience. The world is your oyster at this point.

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And, besides, no one says you have to get a job right away. Take some time for yourself. You’ve been going to school your whole life. Don’t be afraid to just sit back and enjoy your life without having to worry about homework or picky professors.

Moving back home:
Unless you’re one of the lucky ones who graduates without any student debt and has a good-paying job right off the bat, money’s going to be tight. Why not live in a place where you have to pay no rent and get free food? Your parents will always be there to support you.

If you feel like the independence you gained while away at school is slowly slipping away by living at home, set some ground rules with your parents. Remember they’ve been there; they were once your age. They just want you to be happy, so tell them what would do that. They know you’re your own person and they’ll respect your boundaries.

Separation from a significant other:
This is the area I’m having the most trouble with. My boyfriend and I have decided to live at our respective parents’ houses to save up a little money before one of us gets a job somewhere we can live together. Unfortunately, those houses are on opposite ends of the state. I’ve been struggling to imagine what it’s going to be like without him.

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But, I (and you, too, if you’re experiencing the same thing) have to remember that this is only temporary. It’s only going to be a couple of months and we’ll be able to visit at least every now and then.

This whole time in your life is one of the biggest transitions: transitions within relationships, transitions within your family, and transitions within yourself. You’ll learn a lot about yourself in the next few months. And, remember, everything will work out eventually. I promise.