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You might remember her from “Hannah Montana” or already be tired of the media frenzy that has surrounded her 2013 VMA performance, but no doubt, you have heard of her.

Our first introduction to Billy Ray’s daughter was carefully controlled by the Disney Channel. Sure she got to sing and act, but maybe this is the first we are truly meeting Ms. Cyrus and experiencing her real personality. Regardless of your opinion of this celebrity, there is definitely a thing or two we can learn from her.

First of all, you should always be yourself because no matter what, there will always be someone criticizing you. When Miley performed “We Can’t Stop” and “Blurred Lines” with Robin Thicke at the VMAs, a common response was outrage and disappointment. The VMAs are historically known for shocking, coming-of-age performances of young artists, something, according to Justin Timberlake, that shouldn’t surprise us.

He recently said in a radio interview, “”Listen, man, you know, it’s the VMAs. What did you guys expect?”  and as he further explained, “It’s not like she did it at the Grammys,” he said. “Let her do her thing, you know?” We all know that if she had performed in a softer nature, people wouldn’t be talking about it. After all, her phenomenal cover of “Lilac Wine” has just over 3.5 million views on YouTube whereas “We Can’t Stop” has nearly 180 million views and broke Vevo records. Bottom line: just do you and have fun with it.

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On the flip side, we have to remember at some point, “She’s just being Miley” is no longer an excuse. Eventually you are going to have to own up to your behavior. Whether it’s ditching friends, saying you’ll do something and consistently not doing it, partying excessively, showing up to work late–you are going to need to face up to it. While you should absolutely rid yourself of toxic people and situations, it’s crucial to remember that your actions can affect your family, friends, and co-workers in a negative way. Miley might not have figured this out yet, but you should have by now.

Another thing Miley taught us? Pretending to be someone you’re not never works out. She lead a double life as Hannah Montana (both on the show and in real life–she did tour as Hannah, after all). In this sense, Miley never got to be herself in the public eye. Don’t let career restraints, living arrangements or your circumstances change who you are. Find out who you are and be that person.

With her new pixi cut and style changes, Miley shows us that confidence is key. If you don’t walk out your front door every morning believing in yourself, no one else will believe in you either. Be confident in your style, your appearance, and your skills. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself and don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

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Because in the end, nobody’s perfect.