You are happy and excited. You have entered into an intimate partnership with another human being and it is exhilarating. Relationships can be a beautiful thing; You are no longer completely on your own and the foundation is being laid for you and your partner to develop a healthy and hopefully long lasting connection.
As wonderful and entrancing as the connection may be, keeping your own identity and staying true to oneself in a relationship can be a bit challenging at times. You spend so much time of your time making plans, hanging out and catering to your partner that it may begin to feel like bits and pieces of yourself are withering away or becoming buried.
GenTwenty encourages you to stay true to yourself while you are in a relationship and we salute you celebrating your own identity. We support healthy relationships; they are probably one of life’s richest luxuries. Remember that the relationship that you have with yourself is the most important relationship that you can cultivate. Know yourself. Love yourself. Do not enter a relationship to try to fill any voids that you have in your heart or because you think that it will fix you. It will not. You are responsible for the healing process of your old wounds. Make sure that when you choose to embark on a journey with another individual that you are in the proper place to do so at that time on an emotional level. It is respectful to you and to your partner.
Keeping in touch with your own personal interests is a great way to stay true to yourself while in a relationship. Try not to neglect the activities and hobbies that you engage in that you love and are an expression of your personality. Having shared interests and things in common with your partner is ideal, but it is okay to keep some things separate for yourself. With that being said, do not be afraid to spend some time alone. You do not have to spend every waking moment of the day with your partner. Take some time for yourself, hang out with your family or friends, hang out with yourself. Give yourself space. Should you start feeling suffocated or lost in your relationship, talk to your partner. Good communication is a cornerstone for healthy relationships. Have an open and honest conversation about how you are feeling. You may not be the only one feeling this way and perhaps you can come to a mutual agreement on how maintain your relationship without crowding each other.
As much as we as human beings love to love and be loved, self-love comes first. Once you have tapped into how to truly love yourself, you will know how to share that love with another without abandoning yourself. Acknowledge the things that make your partner an individual, do the same for yourself and treat those things with respect. Remember who you are, what you like, what makes you fabulous and revel in those things daily.