“Your twenties are the time you find yourself,” people say. Surely all young adults have heard this saying in one way or another. Situations big and small, twenty-somethings go through their share of battles, sometimes even daily.
Self-confidence is no exception. When we go through tough times, it’s almost impossible to feel anywhere near 100%. It’s what makes us human. Part of the battle of finding ourselves is finding our self-confidence; finding it and enabling it. What we call “tough times” help mold who we are. There’s a sense of empowerment that comes along with those experiences, thus helping establish our self-confidence. Have you built up some self-confidence without even realizing it? Here are some signs you might have:
- Being wrong no longer affects you – Instead of berating others’ opinions because they don’t agree with you, you don’t find it necessary to be right all the time. Your ability to admit you’re wrong or don’t have all the answers is a sign of confidence. You can accept your inaccuracy and back down graciously. It’s more important to fight for what is right than being right.
- Asking for help is essential – You know that you’re not right all the time, and that’s okay. You’re secure enough to admit that you need assistance and aren’t afraid to ask, “Can you help me?” Speaking these words is more important to you than your pride. You know that the phrase “two heads are better than one,” can hold truth more often than not.
- Approval and validation from those that don’t matter is no longer needed – No matter how many digits are under your followers column, you know it pales in comparison to actually having the trust and respect of those few that have true meaning in your life. You don’t feel broken up by someone who knows little to nothing about you. In almost all cases, you won’t even dignify their criticism with a reply.
- Silliness is almost your middle name – Certainly there are moments you can take it to the extreme, but as a confident person, you don’t mind being in situations where you aren’t at your best. You’re not afraid to display more colors of your personality and don’t pay attention to unnecessary judgments. You know there’s more to gain when you’re willing to step out of your comfort zone.
- Positivity is a daily must – You know everyone’s confidence tips the scale from time to time. But you also know that negativity breeds more negativity. You try to find the good in every situation and focus on solutions instead of problems. You know that you can’t solve something immediately, but you make a conscious decision to work on it. You’ve turned your “oh, no” to “bring it on.”
Maybe this list perfectly describes you, or maybe you have a long way to go before you hit all five. Building confidence and figuring out who you are can almost seem like a journey of a thousand miles. But, like any journey, it begins with one step. That one step only happens with the conscious decision to do so. Of course, building confidence is easier said than done, but the best journeys are never just said, they’re always done.