not so perfect guy

This month’s dating disaster story is not about how the date went terribly wrong, but what came after.

I dated this guy, we will call him Whit, and everything while we were dating was great. He was the kind of guy who actually put in the effort. He did and said all the right things during our time together. He would text me everyday and ask how my day was going. When we had plans he would always confirm them. He put effort into planning our dates. It wasn’t just dinner, he always had plans for after dinner. It had been awhile since I had a guy put so much thought into dating me.

I was really starting to get use to this kind of treatment, but still I proceeded with caution. I knew I was starting to like him, but we hadn’t been dating that long so I didn’t want to get ahead of myself. I decided I would take his lead.

He was very sweet, and the way he treated me was how someone treats someone when they want to continue the relationship. I went on a work trip and figured if he was still talking to me when I got back that meant he liked me, right? Whit and I ended up talking everyday while I was gone and I was really excited to see him when I got back. We hung out as soon as I got home and everything seemed fine.

However, one night when I was leaving his house and we kissed goodbye, I had this strange feeling that I was never going to see him again. I don’t know what came over me because up until that point nothing seemed different. Over the next week he stopped texting me. I knew something was up, and decided to finally asked him what was going on. He gave me the “it’s not you, it’s me” speech. I was bummed, but I never want to be with someone who does not want to be with me. I was just happy he was honest and I really had no hard feelings towards him, but that feeling would not last for long.

About a month went by since Whit ended things with me and that’s when he came back into my life, and not in the way you would think. I was at the gym enjoying my Saturday morning workout when I saw him walk by in the mirror. My heart immediately dropped and a lot of thoughts ran through my head.

Did he see me? Should I say hello? Is he going to say hello? Well I am sure you can see where I’m going with this. He completely ignored me! I was livid but figured that maybe he didn’t see me. But that wasn’t the case because for the next couple of months I continued to see him at the gym and he blatantly ignored me. At one point I actually had to stand in front of him and to get him to acknowledge me. Even after that, he would continue to pretend like he didn’t know me.

He may have been a complete gentleman while we were dating, but he turned out to be a jackass and a coward. That is something you would expect from a 21-year old, not a 31-year old. I definitely dodged a bullet. What I still don’t understand is why he felt the need to not even give me a head nod. Girls (and people in general, really) should always be treated with respect, even when you aren’t dating anymore. If he would have just said “hi” the first time we saw each other, it would have been fine. It was the fact that he played dumb and acted as if he did know me that hurt my ego the most. I guess he wasn’t the perfect guy after all.

Have you ever been ignored by someone you have dated after the fact?

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