The term attitude is a word commonly used to describe a person’s feeling, manner, disposition, and/or overall orientation of mind. Attitude is a personal quality of our character, and is often a piece of ourselves we control exclusively. Obstacles, life changes, and other people may attempt to challenge our attitudes, but for the most part our disposition is entirely in our control.
For this reason it is evident that our attitudes are positive or negative on our own accords. We decide whether to exert optimistic, happy feelings unto others or pessimistic, gloomy manners in public.
If your attitude tends to be the latter, it’s time for a heart-to-heart with the GenTwenty team! We are here to help you learn why it is an essential life skill to learn how to improve your attitude, and we have ways for you to begin doing so today!
1. Accept that life is different after college.
One of the hardest transitions we encounter during our twenties is that life after college drastically changes. Your work becomes less about praise and admiration from your professors on an assignment you excelled at, and more about the purposes of the professional organization you join.
You’ll quickly realize professional life after college is about engaging in your work and is less about you as a person, which is hard to accept for some. This can cause your attitude to sour, but don’t let it. Learn to accept that work is work and sometimes it isn’t going to be a fun PowerPoint presentation that taps into your creativity. Sometimes work is going to be a bit mundane, but we all have to pay our dues in the beginning!
2. Believe the sky is the limit.
If you enter the workforce straight from college and behave as though you’re entitled to a 60K salary job with full benefits coverage, four weeks paid vacation per year, and automatic prestige, think again. You have to earn it. We all do. Acting as though you’re entitled in your twenties will be the surest way to realize you won’t get anywhere by your thirties.
Change that demanding, negative attitude right now! Most of us have to start in small, entry level jobs, and work our way up the vertical ladder of financial and professional mobility. Show up to work everyday with a winning attitude and always go above and beyond what is asked of you. This is a sure way to improve your disposition and you will realize overtime the sky really is the limit!
3. Recognize that a bad attitude can ruin more than your day.
When you are in a bad mood, who wants to be around you? No one! A bad attitude has the potential to annoy those around you and negatively affect your life. Pessimistic thinking is habitual, but it can be altered. We promise! Realizing the sour energy you’re exerting affects the people around you and the way you carry yourself may remind you to keep your disposition in mind. Try it!
4. Don’t compare yourself to others.
Life is not a competition. Yes, it can feel that way sometimes. We compete against others for high grades, prestigious careers, and rush toward the marriage and babies finish lines to see who ends up there first. Even though life can feel like a race at times, it really isn’t. Don’t allow yourself to compete against or compare yourself to others.
You are uniquely talented, special, intelligent, gifted, beautiful, and wonderful as you are. Why attempt to be someone you’re not or reach for goals long before you’re ready? Others may have an established career, loving marriage, and children already but that’s them, not you.
You’ll find your attitude is bound to change in a positive way when you allow yourself to be you and be happy with that.
5. Expect the best, not the worst.
Each situation you find yourself in has the potential to be absolutely amazing or horrifically awful. Sometimes we let ourselves expect the worst so as not to get our hopes up. Telling yourself to expect the worst — like you didn’t score the job you interviewed for last week, or that there’s no way you’re going to be promoted after that mistake you made, or there’s no way he’s going to propose to you after the fight you had last night — is a terrible habit. Snap out of it!
By expecting the worst, how can you ever look forward to the best? You’re training yourself to have a negative attitude. Having a negative attitude is sure to guarantee you negative outcomes. Don’t burden yourself this way. Expect the best out of every situation, and even if things don’t unravel the way you expect them to, at least you can enjoy being hopeful and looking forward to the best of everything in life.
These are merely a few of the many ways to improve your attitude. Remember: your attitude is a feeling, disposition, and orientation of mind. It is fluid, which means it will change day to day. Yet, over a long stretch of time you can maintain a positive attitude.
You are worth every effort it takes to achieve happiness. By keeping your attitude positive and optimistic, happiness will become you!