Skip to Content

How To Get Whatever You Want

 How To Get Whatever You Want

Where there’s a will, there’s a way – or so it has been said. The way may be driven by the will – the will is the first step to getting on your way – but it is the execution of the will that paves the way to getting whatever it is you desire out of life.

To get what you want, you must first understand what you want – that’s the genesis of your will, or your drive. It may seem like a simple matter, but if you’re a twenty-something in today’s world, knowing what you want can be a complicated matter. It can be easy to say things like “follow your bliss” and “pursue your passion,” but what if you don’t know what lights your fire? Or worse yet, what if you do, and it seems unreachable?

As for the first, if you’re not sure what lights your fire, experiment. If you love to read, consider writing reviews. If you knit in your spare time, why not consider making and selling your own apparel or knick-knacks? If you can’t keep away from the malls, then perhaps your lust is for fashion. Take what you like and think about if you could make it into something you love.

Once you know what you love, one row of cobblestones will appear, the first step on the way to getting everything you’ve dreamed of. However, that’s the only one you get for free. The rest have to be laid yourself with backbreaking effort and extreme care.

The thing about getting everything you want is that you can’t just get it. You have to go out and get it. It won’t be like receiving a present, or buying something from Amazon. It’s more like a visit to the Home Depot.

You want something that cannot be gotten all at once. Something like success cannot be gotten as a whole, or even like a model airplane, with some assembly required, but all the pieces and an assembly manual included. You have to find the pieces and write your own manual.

So you go to the proverbial Home Depot, and you start to gather your supplies. You already know what you want to do (build a road), but, like we said, there’s no instruction manual yet – you haven’t written it. That’s okay.

The Home Depot comes with employees and fellow road-builders.

These are the people who know how to do what you’re trying to accomplish. They’re there to be cheerleaders, mentors, sources of important information that you need to keep laying down cobblestones. Some of them won’t be able to help – they don’t have the information you’re looking for because they’re just starting out, too.

That’s also okay.

These are your comrades in arms. They’ll be the ones who are there when you fall behind in your construction, the ones who will understand most when you push through a difficult part of your process and accomplish something that the big dogs may consider small. You need them, they need you, and it’s for the same reason: you both need a group of people to keep around you, so you know you’re not alone.

For every person that can’t or won’t help you, maybe even for every five people, there’ll be one gold mine of knowledge who is open-minded and open-hearted enough to share with you what they know. They’ll give you leads, they’ll help you overcome your weaknesses and insecurities, and they’ll show you that it’s possible to move beyond where you are. After all, they’ve already done it.

Their road may be longer than yours, and sometimes it can be easy to become jealous of that. The only thing to remember in these situations is that they may have started building their road earlier than you. They may have had more resources starting out than you, so they got to start work on their road quicker than you can. They may even be better at building roads than you.

But this is both good and irrelevant. Their expertise, given to you, means that you become better at building your own road. And if they’re better than you, it doesn’t matter. They’re building their road and you’re building yours. They’re going to end up in different places at the end, anyway, so what does it matter?

The short and sweet answer is it doesn’t. Focus on your own road.

You know what you want, and if you don’t, you have the resources to figure it out. You know how to get there, and if you don’t, there are people in your corner to help you find your way. In the end, building the road to everything you want is a result of your own efforts. No one can do it for you, but there are people who will do it with you.

Row of stones by row of stones, the way will be built. Because you’ve got the will. You’ve got the beginnings of a way. Now get out there and start building your road to whatever you want.

About the Author

Liz Lazzara

Liz Lazzara is an androgyne writer, editor, and activist specializing in mental health, addiction, and trauma. They have written online copy for rehab centers, and essays, narrative nonfiction, and journalism for multiple online and print publications. They are currently working on a manuscript about complex post-traumatic stress disorder and addiction, and they are affiliated with Active Minds, the Mental Health America Advocacy Network, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), the National Association of Memoir Writers, the Nonfiction Authors Association, No Stigmas, and the One Love Foundation. You can find their entire body of work at


Read previous post:
Why You Should Write Letters to Friends

In the digital age of texting and Instagram, the magic of a handwritten letter has been forgotten.