What does failure really mean?  Is it getting a grade less than you wanted on a college essay?  Or is it not getting the job you wanted so desperately and prepared for night-and-day?

It is something different to everyone.  It all depends on the individual circumstances.  For instance, here is what I believed failing to be just a few years ago:

In late-2011, I went through the worst college semester of my life.  I felt depressed.  I felt stressed.  I was not myself.  I continuously said I was “failing” at life.  One semester away from graduating, I chose to take a semester off to collect and calm myself.  Never in my life would I envision myself doing such a thing.

But I’m glad I did.

After that semester away from school, I had the time to think things through.  Eventually, I was able to think clearly again and realize what I wanted to do with my life.  I figured out my strengths and weaknesses.

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I confided in others more than ever to get through the stress I was feeling.  And, more importantly, I was able to see that I wasn’t the failure I kept calling myself.

Yet, still, two years later, I wonder what failure really is and why I thought the way I did about it.

You see, twenty-somethings, failure isn’t quite what you think it is.  Failure isn’t getting a low grade on that essay or not getting the job you wanted or the top spot in the marathon you just finished.  It’s so much more than you realize.

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Failure is falling on your face, crying about it and not doing a damn thing to change it.  It is not trying to do your best, when you know you can. It is giving up. It is hiding instead of resolving. It is not being a good friend when others are good to you.  But, most of all, failure is different for every human being alive, no matter which age group you fall into.

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Whatever you’re going through, you can overcome it if you put effort into it.  Believe me, it can happen—if you call yourself a failure, you’ll start to believe it.  So, don’t.  Have enough faith in yourself to persevere.

Only you can fight your life’s battles.  Only you can overcome being a failure.  And, lastly, only you can define what it really means to you.