I went out with a guy very recently that I met on at dating app. He seemed really funny and asked me out. Obviously I said yes –because why else would I be on a dating app? This date wasn’t a disaster because he was mean, rude, or a fuckboy. Oh no. This time it was for so many other reasons, if you can believe it.
Somehow he put it on me to pick the date options for a day date. If you have ever planned a day date, you know that it’s hard. All I really wanted to do was go to brunch, honestly, but I figured I should get a little creative. In the end, I gave him three options: drinks at the Roof Top Bar in Laguna Beach, wine tasting and a picnic at a local winery, or Big Air Trampoline Park.
I think he was trying to be adventurous because he chose the trampoline park. After hearing his choice, I suggested we grab a drink before we headed off to jump on some trampolines. I was actually excited to try it. I had never been before, so I figured it couldn’t be that bad of a choice.
Boy was I wrong.
First, we meet at a bar close by and as soon as I pulled in, I saw him walking up and did a double take because he looked exactly like my ex (if you could even call him that — another story for another time). This guy looked nothing like my ex in his pictures online, but in person, it was like seeing his twin. He was even dressed the same way as my ex. This was already not a good start to the date for me.
We said hi, sat down at a bar table, and ordered some drinks. I felt bad because I couldn’t even look him in the face while we were talking because it kept freaking me out. I already knew this was probably not going to work, but I was already there and had to give it my best. The conversation was good, not great. But he was a really nice, cute (despite the his lookalike appearance), and had his shit together.
After a couple of drinks we headed off to the second part of our date. We walked into the place and it was packed. I don’t know if any of you have ever been to a trampoline park, but it’s basically like going to a Chuck ‘e’ Cheese. We were the only adults there who didn’t have kids, which made this part of the date even more awkward. We clearly needed more to drink before we went.
The guy at the front asked us if we wanted a pass for one or two hours. At the same time we both said, “ONE!” We looked around and noted there was a bunch of different things to do, so we decided to start out on the mechanical bull. We proceeded to go on the rest of the “attractions” during our hour there.
To be honest, this date is the kind of date you do with someone you are already comfortable with. Not only are you jumping around on a trampoline trying not to knock a kid over, but you get really sweaty. It was like a second workout for me that day.
The poor guy was sweating through his shirt. My hair was wet and my makeup started to melt off. By the end of it, neither one of us looked that great. It was also hard to get to know each while jumping around. We both kept looking at our watches for the hour to be over because the novelty of this place wore off after five minutes. After our hour was up, he drove me back to my car and we parted ways never to speak again.
I have to say this date didn’t get off to a great start mainly because of me, but there are some people who can just instantly click and make the most of a situation — we were not those people together. Like I said, he was a nice guy, but this was really not a good first date.
Be forewarned, should you think of this as a date idea in the future, you’d be better off going with the wine tasting.
Have you ever been out with a nice guy but the setting was not so nice?