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Nourishment is not just about nourishing your body but also about nourishing your mind. Until you can clear your head of all the negativity it is hard to fully nourish your mind, body, and soul.

The most common thing I hear from people in their twenties is how they feel like they are not where they thought they would be in life. A lot of it seems to be based off ‘what this person is doing’ and ‘what that person has.’ Social media makes it hard for our generation to focus on ourselves because you are able to see the lives of every person you have ever come into contact with. 

Seeing that someone just got married or landed their dream job can seem defeating. More often than not, we start thinking about what we don’t have rather then what we do. It is this type of thinking that makes many of the millennial generation feel depressed or inadequate. I hear it all the time. It makes me sad that so many of us feel beaten down in life.

I am guilty of this too, but I decided that 2014 was about changing this idea that I was not as good enough because I was not where my friends are in their lives. By letting go, I felt like I could really begin to nourish my mind and hold on to my sanity.

Here are three things to help you start eliminating everyone else’s opinions and actions from your mind: 

1. Have you ever heard the term, “The grass is always greener?” I am sure you have. This is a perfect example of why you need to stop worrying about what your best friend is doing with his or her life. From the outside looking in, it may seem like they have it all, but in reality their life has cracks in it too. Life is not perfect, nor it is not suppose to be, so do not try to make it perfect. 

2. Stop worrying about what people think about you. I cannot stress this enough! The only opinion you should worry about is your own. Only you can control what you make of your life. Who cares if someone is judging you because of your job or relationship status or how you look. Comparing yourself to others is an impossible measurement. We are all unique individuals. Why do we always feel the need to fit into a box that society tells us is right? 

3. Start turning your judgments of others in to compliments. If we are judging others we cannot expect others not to judge us. It is time to change the cycle. For every judgmental thought you have about a person in your life try thinking of something positive about that person. Or if someone gets something you wanted, be genuinely happy for him or her. So another one of your friends got engaged. Instead of scoffing at the news, be happy for them. That is something to celebrated. Whatever it is you want your day will come too. I try to do this when those negative thoughts come into my head. It does me no good to think or say mean and spiteful things about people. It only makes me petty. 

In order for you to nourish your mind, body, and soul you have to eliminate the negative thoughts starting with all the judgment. As soon as I let go of the fear of what people thought about me, I felt like a weight had been lifted of my shoulders. I know what I want and what my goals are and I have nothing to prove to anyone so now my mind can finally focus on the things it should. So in the words of Elsa “Let it go!” Yes, I just quoted Frozen and guess what, I don’t care.

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